Client conversations have been filled with 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗲𝘅𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗮𝗯𝘂𝘀𝗲 as they step deeper & deeper into their power, potential, abundance
Ever feel that way?
...getting burned for your bigness?
...fear of taking up the spotlight?
...not wanting to be too much or too loud?
(I think we’ve all given & received this hurt)
I’m reminded in these conversations,
that leadership takes 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙖𝙜𝙚
The courage to face the fire
Playing big doesn’t come without risk
You’re going to be made wrong
There will be pressure to change your truth
And all of it,
is an invitation into higher levels of
Leadership & Embodiment
in what » Y O U « Know to be true
You’re a wild, dramatic, woman
You’re ALLOWED to be
It’s drool worthy
& such a damn turn on
Your power is 𝙨𝙤 needed
It’s filled with GOODness
Know that standing in your bigness
will turn people away
But they’re not your people
Owning your power & speaking your truth,
will call in the ones who are...
Don’t you know you’re...
worth more than that?
Don’t you know you’re...
Don’t you tell all your friends how you’re “too good” for a man that treats you less than royalty?
But here we are, all of a sudden, thinking it’s “too expensive” & “too much”
Boo, you are too much.
You are worth TOO MUCH.
And you should be getting PAID big money for that.
When I hear that number - and it’s more than I’ve ever paid before - my body gets the tingles
Investing has less to do with the mentor or offering,
& more to do with the value we put into ourselves
It’s there for our own *level up*
...for us to energetically invest it ALL
...to leave the excuses & fears at the last level
The smaller we play in our investments, the smaller we play in our growth game
It’s just the energetics
And the game of money
Note: there’s privilege in this. I’m a white, cis hetero, able bodied female.
Last year, I took a Queer Competency course with @embodyemerge, in addition to other DEI work.
I committed myself, at a personal & business level.
When I first started, especially getting into rooms with marginalized communities, there was a lot of discomfort, shame, guilt & wanting to avoid.
I stood stuck for a while, not wanting to expand, talk about money, wealth or success.
While I understood at a conscious level, that...
We want the exact script, framework, practice…
but when it comes to flow,
there is no exact anything!
Our B O D Y is the guide,
& it changes everyday.
Part of my Embodied Launch protocol (part of Blissness x Pleasure Method) is starting each day with a movement practice
Just like this one^
It’s not always perfect...
Sometimes I don’t want to do it
Sometimes I don’t do it
Sometimes I do it midday or @ night
Sometimes I drop right in
Sometimes there’s resistance
Sometimes I don’t want it to end
Regardless, it allows me to:
xx move stuck energy
xx go beyond the stories of my mind
xx feel into the truth of my body
xx get into my feel good place
xx step into my pleasure
This supports me in being magnetic to what I’m calling in because my channels are crystal clear
Q: How does having an embodied movement practice support you?
4 days left for B x P enrollment!
P.S. I say this is ‘easy yet advanced’, because it’s a simple process to follow, but...
This time last year I had a conversation with my coach about collaborating with other women
She was encouraging me to put down my independence a little bit more, to share my spaces with other wisdom givers & light workers
At the time, partnership wasn’t yet fully safe for me
Looking back, I know it was rooted in fear of attachment, trust, & intimacy
I was just dipping my toes in the pond,
& I’m now I’m fully swimming :)
@amylea.co read my astro/HD chart last summer & reflected the opening for deep healing around professional relationships & collabs
Since then, I’ve grown my team into a solid interconnected web of 5 (+ we’ll be hiring soon!)
& I’ve been bringing incredible women into my coaching containers to amplify the magic
For this round of B x P, we’ll have 4 guest speakers sharing their expertise with the group:
Claudia Nanino » Conscious Breathwork
Jessica Siren » Voice Activation
I held a lot of resentment in my body towards routine & structure.
It was a mirror of the internal resentment I was holding towards (1) men, & (2) the rejection of the goodness, & the need for, masculine energy (& also good men) in my life.
I was hell bent on not integrating form
I tried & tried, but it kept getting harder & harder
I name this here because it was an integral part of my biz journey
My stubborn refusal to bring in my inner father, brother, lover, friend...
He who teaches how to befriend the Self, first & foremost, & then organically, everyone else
(Maps to Ecstasy by Gabrielle Roth is a great read for this)
We grow far when we integrate these polarities
…yin x yong…
It’s the dance of the universe
And integration comes from the Latin word integrare meaning, “make whole”.
Create freedom in your body x biz & harmonize your masc & fem to level the f up in biz x bed x bank with the proven Blissness & Pleasure...
(follower count down)
This used to scare me…
xx Not having them like me
xx Saying the wrong thing
xx Being too much
xx Not being for everyone
But I’m not for everyone.
And neither are you.
Shutting the door to our authentic expression closes the channel to our magnetism & receptivity.
I can revel in this truth now.
It excites me.
It turns me on.
Because I know I’m activating something in them.
And whether they look at it or not,
it stirred something.
And I L O V E that.
Whether they choose me or not,
it doesn’t affect me.
Nor is it a reflection of my character.
While this in theory is easy,
it’s not the easiest to put into action.
Discomfort can arise in our body.
Rejection, abandonment & betrayal wounds come to the surface.
Our attachment styles activate & reactions seemingly come out of nowhere.
This is when it’s most important to stay in our bodies & ride the wave of emotion x feeling.
There’s information there.
It lives in...
You Can Have It All
(it even says this at the top of my website)
Let’s stop choosing between *this or that*
We don’t need to sacrifice or settle
We don’t have to choose between a limited life in one area to have a big life in the other
It’s not this OR that
It’s this AND that
I grew up in NY, where success = sacrifice
*The man* taught me happiness wasn’t part of the equation
And now I have a man that won’t let me settle for anything less than all of it
God didn’t put you here to give you an endless flow of desire
just to say
“now suffer ‘cause you can’t have it”
“I’m gonna punish you when you get it because it’s too good to be true”
Organized religion loves to overplay that story
“Jesus, make me worthy.”
You already are
Whether you’re disciplined or undisciplined
F*cking or not f*cking
Like Mary Magdalene said,
“I am the Whore & the Holy one.”
it’s about leading from love
Last week I was reflecting on marketing x sales dynamics…
When I first wrote the B x P landing page,
I came in kinda hot, hard & heavy
My team & fav humans reflected that
& I made my adjustments
The connection between relationships & biz shows up in how we present & sell ourselves
If we’re hitting them over the head with
the things they do wrong,
the things they never do,
& how they never get it right
» they’ll never get it right «
(at least not with us)
I used to do this with men
In my relationship now, there’s lots of re-patterning happening
...always lead with love...
Respect & love have to be the baseline
On a podcast interview with @relatingintheshadows, @rainierwylde asked me what the healthy fem looks like
My answer was simple: she leads in Love
My work with my submissive archetype, showed me more of how the heart of a man works:
Growing my biz to multi 6 fig, has taught me a lot about the relationship between form x flow, masc x fem, logic x intuition, control x surrender
These polarities have become a powerful tool for me to increase my revenue, client base & product suite, while enjoying MORE play x pleasure
When I first took my biz fully online 3 years ago, I was a one woman team
I hit 6 figs in just over 6 months & didn’t change much when I got to that level
In my personal life, I was doing massive reorganizing. I had just completed a somatic sexology healing program that supported me in stepping into my fullness, & as a byproduct, 4x my income
Over the following year, I joined a MM to support the level of growth I was having bc I honestly didn’t know what to do with that kind of expansion
The $$ I had always dreamed of was flowing in, my ideal clients were filling up my calendar, & my methodology was getting deeper x wider
As I continued to step deeper into my fem,...