he nice girl is the GOOD girl. She hasn’t yet RE-membered herself.
She’s the one who doesn’t say what she means, needs or wants - or how she feels - because she’s constantly putting everyone else’s needs & feelings before her own.
NICE is not productive.
NICE is the programming.
We need to say how we feel & what we need from the very FIRST time we feel that need RISE within us
..not tuck it away, overriding our boundaries, only to let the charge behind the repression of our truth build & build & build until ‘out of nowhere’ there’s a reactive eruption where you get labeled the ‘crazy bitch’
The issue is NOT the emotion, the need, the desire, the feeling, the ask, the boundary..
the issue is not even the power behind your voice when you say it!!!….
**the issue is the UNPREDICTABILITY of when you use your voice to when you don’t**
Read that again
My favorite reframe for this is:
WHOLE > GOOD...
Client: I don’t have time for plea$ure or self care. Me: Let’s play with this! (gets consent from client)
Me: One of the ways I like to game-ify this… Add self care + plea$ure into the ACTions that are ALREADY automatic in your world. Client: Ooohhh. Keep going.
Me: Tell me one thing you do every single day. Client: Brush my teeth.
Me: Awesome. If you so choose, what could be one thing you add to that ritual that would have you feel connected to your heart & $ex? Client: Stand in front of the mirror, look into my eyes & ask: what does my intuition want me to know today?
Me: Bam. Big pu$$y energy.
We did this for 3 rounds. Nailed down the new action steps. Made sure they lit her up & felt like a ‘f*$# yes’.
Who you want to be is ALREADY inside of who you ARE.
We just have to merge them.
And start BEhaving & ACTing according to the next iteration of ME/WE.
It’s really that simple.
This photo represents what’s happening in most of our pelvic bowls.
Squished. Compressed. Twisted. Contracted.
A lack of:
Space. Breath. Blood. Life.
No room for what needs to flow.
No awareness of the blockage from the first place.
Even what starts as a small disturbance, causes the body to adapt & adjust.
Without attention, care & healing, the disturbance grows.
Causing the managers of the body to work harder, longer hours.
Certain jobs unable to get done because someone else can’t do theirs.
…affecting everyone above & below.
The body of this world, Mother/Lover Earth herself, is no longer asking for our awareness.
She is demanding it.
And so are our bodies.
They are one in the same.
As above, so below.
We must start turning & tuning in.
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If a bodyworker assumes blanket consent, I'm OUT.
You should be telling me everything you’re planning on doing *with* my body, as you approach it.
If we are not practicing consent with every touch, we are taking someone’s rightful agency.
If we’re not practicing consent with every touch, we are taking someone’s rightful agency. We are robbing them of their right to be informed & to choose what is best for their own body.
Tag a practitioner Long gone are the days I tolerate a lack of consent awareness from bodyworkers.
I was referred to someone who straight faced told me to “buck up” when I notified them of a sensitive trauma affected area of my body.
I’ve had a trigger point bodyworker vigorously put their hands around my neck as a first time ever ‘hello’ to my skin.
Someone else who would not respect my ask to keep my breasts draped for rib & intercostal work.
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Mornings with me My favorite moon pants from @lunamae_boutique, a coccygeus @ashleyblackguru fascia blast & some a n a l breathing Thank you for the technique @ellenheed
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When you start moving your body in new ways, certain things that were forgotten get ready to be remembered. You *quite literally* stir the stuck shit up & your body starts to purge. Get ready to feel - & to feel DEEPLY.
Yesterday on a 1:1 call with a year long client, she shared "All of this *old* grief is coming up." Memories of both - being abandoned & abandoning others - have been flashing through her awareness. She’s been feeling the loss of loved ones even deeper. HERE'S WHY:
She's been taking care of her body *from the inside out* in ways she has never before.
THAT LOOKS LIKE: Moving her body in ways she hasn’t since before starting & leaving her corporate job. Instead of sitting for hours, she’s walking for hours - in NATURE, not in a gym. She’s started a Pelvic Health Yoga. Class that is bringing new energy & awareness to a region of her body she hasn’t ’been with’
Adventures at Shasta in between bodywork sessions! We had the most delicious day driving around listening to fairy music as we chased waterfalls, drove to the top of the volcano, caught the beauty of their first snowfall & ended up at the Sacramento headwaters Resourced & recharged for another 4 days of learning & experiencing.
I came to Ashland to learn from a master bodyworker.
When I find someone I resonate with, someone who’s work resonates deep in my bones…someone my body feels trust & safety with..I tend to fall right in, deep.
So I extended my trip by a whole week. On a whim. Without plan or notice.
I’m grateful for an abundant business that not only allows me to invest into my passions, personal care teams, & to support my endless thirst for knowledge in these realms..
but for a business that allows me to have *flexibility*
>> Time & financial freedom <<
That was my goal 2 years ago.
To be able to travel. Have the time/$ freedom to fill my days with movement, nature, $ex & hobbies.
To be able to love myself & the people in my life better BECAUSE of what I do & HOW I do it.
To be able to fulfill my desires, with as much ease as possible, as they arise within me, because of the path I’ve forged.
When I decided to stay,
I notified my team.