1 - Not letting myself feel the goodness x bliss in the contracting emotions (anger, sorrow, grief, etc.)
2 - Seeking to understand instead of simply feeling
3- Shaming myself for being in my masculine/ yong (especially in relationship w. men) like it’s less than
4- Pressure to have a self pleasure practice E V E R Y D A Y
5- Thinking there was a ‘right way’ to do it
6- And I had to execute it ‘perfectly’
7- Trying to do it ALONE
You’re doing so well.
You’re in exactly the right place, at the right time, with the right people.
You are meant to feel the DUALITY on this human journey.
And you’re not meant to do it alone.
Keep feeling the ups & downs, the highs & lows, the yin & yong, the expansion & contraction.
It’s so perfect for you.
I love it all, for you :)
Drop one thing you are CELEBRATING about your perceived...
Last week in Blissness x Pleasure Mastermind, we wrote a letter to our inner child & had a sister in the group read it to us in front of the group.
It was so sweet, activating, emotional
Letter to my inner child:
You’re allowed to have needs. Your needs are valid, heard, honored & met.
You didn’t do anything wrong.
Nothing is wrong with you.
You’re not here to doubt yourself. You’re here to question the outside world.
You are so loved. Just the way you are.
You are worthy of all the love & affection in the world.
Play, dance, sing.
Play, dance, sing, be free.
Play, dance, sing, be loud.
I love your self expression.
I love when you stand-in your authenticity, even what it isn’t what I want you to do or agree with.
Be okay with letting go of people, places & things as you grow x expand.
Nothing is permanent.
When things leave you or you leave them, remember who you are.
Listen to your body.
It’s so trustable.
You are trustable.
You always get what you...
If you find yourself shying away from anger, do an INVENTORY CHECK (in the mind x body)
WHERE do you get STUCK in your body when you try to access & express this emotion?
What thoughts come up?
What’s the story in your head?
What’s REALLY holding you back from going there?Where do you feel it in your body?
Most of the time with clients, I see ‘blockages’ accessing anger because of societal conditioning.
(Check previous reels / posts for more on this)
The anger is there (TRUST ME)
It’s just buried deep underneath the surface
And an ego that loves to deliciously make stories around, ‘why you shouldn’t be mad’ or ‘here’s the silver lining’
Bleh. Silver linings are great.
I’m a Queen at making them
But they’re also a straight shot to spiritual bypassing
Your anger is V A L I D
It doesn’t need to carry shame
It’s not something to fix
It’s Eros in raw form
Love in action [Passion]
…my insides screamed on my flight back from Portland
Ever feel that way?
Tired of making up x telling stories
Tired of using words when you just want & need to get in your body
Yeah, me too!
Clients come to me because they are…
TIRED OF TALKING
xx same cycle they’ve been in for years
xx story they’ve created an identity around & continue to live in
xx patterns they keep repeating
The reason these things repeat & cycle & we create more of an identity around it…
is because most of the time the healing we participate in is only from the neck up.
When we leave the rest of our BODY out, we don’t get in the tissue
which is where the ISSUe is ;)
Having a bottom up, somatic based approach in your healing & becoming, gets you to the ROOT cause of these patterns & cycles.
Otherwise, we tend to dance around the core issue - getting to know it more, creating grand awareness - but not actually MOVING it.
When I work with clients, we focus...
If you keep calling in the same kind of unhealthy partners & feel frustrated because ‘you thought you healed that’...watch this video for 3 big perspective shifts to surrender to the process of calling in your ideal relationship. This strategies apply to biz growth as well!
I was boarding a flight w/ someone who was going to save me a seat because they had an earlier boarding group than me
Except it was a full flight & seats were filling up fast
I got a text from them saying,
“Your seat got taken, I asked someone to move but then someone else went & took it. I need to be meaner.”
Using our voice is not mean!
Taking up space is not selfish!
If you don’t use your voice & claim what is yours, someone else will take it.
Whether it be a seat, job, client, orgasm, drink, or money.
“You, yourself, more than anyone in the entire universe, deserves your love & attention.” - Buddha
Let’s take shape & ASK for what we want!
Where are you quieting your voice to ‘be nice’? To have things be ‘easier’? To not make ‘trouble?’
IDEAS TO PRACTICE EMBODYING YOUR POWER THROUGH VOICE
asks what you want for dinner, ANSWER (the first time!)
cuts in front of you in line, kindly...
Cocles beach - literal black & gold sand
After, I headed back to MA for another solo week before Paul got there & met @sketchesbysavs <3
@falafel_bar (get their chocolate balls & dip them in cashew dulce de leche butter from Super Joseth up the block)
@cafeaguaazul is mouth watering
@elavionrestaurant has delicious breakfast
@manuelantoniofitness was pricey but I’ll pay for dumbbells
The organic grocery store& man was the best.
We also went to:
Go to @fuegobrewco for FOOD, @danyasa_yoga_retreat for yoga clothes.
Waterfalls are amazing
Please use alcohol after you waterfall jump my ear is still messed up:)
Paul & I then went north to Monteverde.
It is cold(er). It’s a cute mountain town with family/couple vibes I feel! @restaurante_celajes
food at @hotelbelmar...
Save this for your travel plans!
I went to Costa Rica for a 6 week excursion. Below I’ll share my fav spots, foods, tips & snacks ;)
@soltarahealingcenter - did their 7 day retreat (4 Aya ceremonies). LOVED everything about it. Food, service, facilitators, experience, amenities, room, (check IGTV for more details)
After, I went straight down to Montezuma (thank you @iamtaylorsimpson for the planning help!)
I stayed at @anamayaresort & it was BEYOND gorgeous. Two incredible yoga decks looking over the water & the food x service was impeccable. V much considering hosting retreats there :) They also have private access to the waterfall.
I met a lovely local (@freedomseeeker) who showed me around Santa Teresa via motorbike! SUPER cute. Amazing shops & cafes. Big night life if you’re into that. I intend to go back & stay longer.
I then took a taxi boat to Jaco & made my way to Manual Antonio where I started my month stay with @selina. They have a...
For this life I’ve created,
when just 3 years ago I was at a rock bottom
Healing from an intentional pregnancy that came from an abusive relationship
Finally finding freedom after years of substance abuse, eating disorders, & body dysmorphia
Dismantling internal family systems as I dove deep into my childhood abuse x trauma
Unraveling the pattern of toxic relationships & decoupling love from abuse
Building a sustainable online business by turning my pain into purpose
Coming home to my body through somatics
Feeling sexual liberation for the first time & reclaiming my full feminine expression
For the obstacles, challenges, failures, hurt, pain & hardness along the way
For the abundance, financial freedom, successful business, loving community, incredible partner, hysterical cuddly puppies, travel, & new experiences
For my body, my heart, my soul, my mind
For you, this...
Although our truth can change, when we’re safe & grounded in our bodies, there’s a deep knowing that lives there.
In the times I’ve hidden from my truth,
it has shown up in my system.
A knot in my stomach
A weight on my chest
A tightness in my throat
A hell of a lot of manifestations I didn’t (directly) ask for.
…but they were just a byproduct of my wishy washy signals!
And at the end of it, my body was exhausted & confused.
Here are a few of my favorite tips to get out of people pleasing behavior & back into alignment:
1 Speak your truth & speak it loudly.
2 Practice speaking your truths to people & communities that are SAFE & SUPPORTIVE.
3 Notice when / where / with who, you want to bend.
4 Stay curious - Why? What is it about that place? That person? That thing? That makes you want to go against your truth?
*approach this with childlike curiosity & leave the judgements at the door*
5 Try asking: What comes in your body...