this song hit me in the gym this morning & it reminded me of our often neglected Inner Being screaming for self-intimacy (thats what I’ve been calling self pleasure lately!)
these last couple of months w/out IG,
I’ve been re:connecting to mySelf x Truths
as I’ve gifted myself exxtra long juicy self care time
(& i have super easy tips for you to try!)
my Higher Self strategically created this ‘break’ so I could go inward & download new operating systems (smart girl she is )
spoiler alert: we got them & they’re already rippling out
(p.s. i see SO many of my friends & fellow change-makers going through VERY similar Awakenings - have you noticed that too? industries are changing )
I’ve been sharing the frameworks & perspective shifts that have supported me over on @trppodcast
Here are the latest 4 solo’s:
283: How To Sit With Yourself & What To Do When You Avoid It
282: Top 10 Current Favorite Self Care Tips...
Well well well, look what the cat dragged in
Did you miss me?!
After a few viral reels, my IG @juliannevaccaro got reported for talking about s3x x B D S M x submission.
I was disabled for almost TWO months, without knowing if I’d ever get my account back.
It was a time of delicious darkness
I was invited back into the womb of creation to release what was no longer serving me ((sounds kinda cliche but unplug from the internet & your biz for 2 months & you’ll know what I’m talking about)) & listen to my heart x soul x pu$$y
I have had MAJOR downloads about biz, identity, life, community , relationships, money , what I’m creating, & the new paradigm we’re stepping into as a collective — starting with myself.
I feel so full, at home, nourished, satiated, inspired, & READY to birth this new iteration of myself & business into reality.
I have SO much to say.
And SO much to offer.
I will be doing things VERY differently from...
remember when he held my hands down above my head & placed a deliciously
firm grip around my neck
I was 𝙨𝙤 into it
But before I knew it
& as fast as the rush of pleasure
came into my body
it was 𝙜𝙤𝙣𝙚
I found myself in a paralyzed state
tears fiercely running down my face
onto the silky bedsheets beneath me
My body 𝙡𝙤𝙘𝙠𝙚𝙙.
My heart & p*ssy 𝙘𝙡𝙤𝙨𝙚𝙙.
And while I couldn’t 𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 understand
what was happening
I knew my body was no longer in a state of receptivity
Instead, a state of 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗲𝗳𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲
This is an example of unprocessed trauma
manifesting in current day blockages
Not only did this happen with power dynamics
it also occurred with:
anything from behind
any sexual act that was rushed into
all conversations that involved s-e-x
This was NOT b/c I
didn’t like it
wasn’t into kink play
didn’t enjoy sex
didn’t actually love my partner.
(All of which I thought & judged myself over for YEARS.)
It was b/c
I didn’t feel safe in my body
RED HOT TRUTH
YOUR PARTNER IS NOT THE CO-OWNER OF YOUR BODY
If this truth doesn’t exist in our relationship/s, are they really our 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿/𝘀?
And if not 𝙮𝙤𝙪, who has your body’s back at the end of the day?
The programming of the patriarchy has intentionally brought us further & further away from autonomy in ourselves, & agency in our bodies.
We’ve been TOLD what to do for ages, especially for those of us that don’t hold the privileged white male identity, and double especially for those of us who bleed every month.
It’s taught us that we don’t know what’s best for ourselves or our bodies.
And consent has never been part of the conversation.
TRUTH: Our partners do not just automatically get access to our goodies, whenever & wherever (unless its a consensual agreement - I see you sexuals & kinksters).
There is no title or label that someone gets to have, entitling them to your body, without your consent.
I’ve had lots of client...
Women are not your place for dumping
….Their bodies, hearts or social media accounts.
I find it divinely ironic that from the start of my launch for LOVE SEX MEN, I’ve received nasty comments from men specifically.
Previous versions of me would have felt not good enough, made it about me, armored up, fought back & probably shut down towards the real men in my life.
While there were moments my knees buckled at the cruel words, I never lost the truth in my heart.
That men are good.
And there are good men.
To witness myself anchored in that truth, shows me so much about the inner transformation I’ve had.
When just four years ago, I was leaving yet another abusive relationship.
I collected those like it was just another notch in my belt. Big part of my karma.
I have hated men.
I have fought with them.
I allowed myself to be the dumpster for the unresolved pain & hurt they felt towards their mothers.
I felt so unsafe around them, that...
Busting Common Sex Myths
#1 Talking about sex does not take away from the magic
But what we make it MEAN about us when they DO // DO NOT pick up on our subtle messages DOES
he doesn’t understand my body & my soulmate should def just know so I guess this means he’s not ‘the one’
he makes me squirt as soon as touches my p*ssie he’s everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner we’re totally meant to be
Hate to tell you (but actually I love it )…
Sex gets better with practice!
That immediate firework show at the start of a relationship typically implies a trauma bond that’s activating a familiar (often harmful) pattern from childhood
Consent / boundary / desire conversations can be such a TURN ON
I make sure I talk about sex on every first date
Not just because I’m a somatic sexologist…
but because if we’re not sexually/sensually/energetically compatible - what’s the dang point??
Reminder: Your Pleasure is Everything to This World...because what feeds you...feels the whole.
I fell back into the matrix
Last week we closed the doors to LOVE SEX MEN. If I’m being honest, it was a smaller launch than what I intended & wished for.
I spent days trying to figure out what went ‘wrong’, what could have been better & how I could improve launch protocol.
Know what I came up with?
(Or lack there of)
Everything I, & my biz, stands for.
[How silly of me to have forgotten ]
I realized where my energy leaks were…
And all of them were because of my lack of enjoyment in the pleasure that was sitting right there in front of me
My mind taking me out of them because:
xx Making this much money should be harder
xx Now you have a partner & a bigger home to care for (the irony of this during LSM launch)
xx Time is limited time is limited time is limited
I noticed controlling, micromanaging behavior from me to Paul (again, the irony...
We drove 30 min past the exit we were supposed to get off at & ended up at the perfect trail with little to no humans & streams to dunk our bare bums in
Anyone else spend hours on @alltrails & end up somewhere totally different?
We need more submissive womxn because we need more womxn in their full power.
“Surrender is the position of allowing in, of getting filled up, of getting nourished.
Surrender is the position through which we allow all the good & the beautiful & the delightful to enter our spirit.
Live in Surrender if you want to feel replete, if you want to feel the world is beautiful & benevolent.
Live in Surrender if you want the world to enrich & and help you along your path.
Open yourself up & let other’s mastery enter your system & move you.”
The desire to let go of control is at the base of your feminine heart.
Today’s the last day to apply for LOVE SEX MEN! Hope to see you inside with the other womxn ready for the journey!
Saying you’re not ready to commit to the self work that’s required for a healthy, loving relationship (& an epic sex life) implies you ARE ready to keep getting hurt, let down & stuck in your pattern.
Every time we say, “I’m not ready for ____”, we are saying YES to staying exactly where we are.
Sometimes saying one thing, really says another
What are you waiting for right now because you don’t feel ‘ready’? And, what’s the effect?
Applications for ***LOVE SEX MEN: 8 week journey to heal the wounds of the masculine, evoke your submissive & open to deep connection x intimacy*** are due by tomorrow
You know what to do!