‘you never initiate sex or come onto me’ …. said every boyfriend i ever had
this always made me feel so 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙢𝙚𝙛𝙪𝙡
i felt like less of a woman
it brought up stories that said:
👉🏻i wasn’t a sexual person
👉🏻there was something wrong with me
👉🏻i didn’t know what i was doing
👉🏻i wasn’t enough
👉🏻& they were better off with someone else
🚨this happened for TWO REASONS…
1️⃣ i didn’t feel 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 or in my sexual expression. i grew up with shame around sex, 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙜𝙧𝙖𝙢𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜 (wrong, dirty), & a lack of sex ed (aka pleasure)
i picked up on societal cues that told me sex was for men’s pleasure…& my body was there to 𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗲
it left me 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤...𝐮𝐧𝐟𝐞𝐝...& 𝐮𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝
2️⃣ i later learned…..i’m a primary Energetic on the Erotic Blueprints (dk yours?! dm me for the quiz link!).
this means i’m:
highly turned on by anticipation, tease, & space.
i need grounding, safety, connection & SLOW anticipatory touch to get me going.
💡so, in learning that most of my partners were the opposite blueprints as me (sexual)….
we had a hard time understanding each other & spoke a diff sexual language
me initiating sex looked like….
“hey, can we just hug for a min? be present with each other?”
for a sexual, that does NOT translate to sex!!
they get turned on by getting right to the punch 🥊
like….a hand reaching around to grab their goods while they cook dinner
[ooh la la 💃🏼]
…something that for us energetics, could be a total turn OFF!
i shared this story during a previous E.B. Workshop & there were so many ‘AH-HA!’ moments!
learning our own bodies & our partners…gives us the opportunity to go deeper than we’ve ever gone before.
𝐄𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐁𝐥𝐮𝐞𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐱 𝐔𝐧𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 Workshop is at @cosmicteaholisticshop THIS Friday 10/22 at 5 PM MDT! 💫💦🌈
message for ‘EROTIC’ for the link to sign up
p.s. the EB’s have a whole WEEKEND dedicated inside IN THE FLESH Mystery School Facilitator Training….in Vegas, baby 💕