when he asks "how do you want it?"

Sep 17, 2021

i remember being on t0p of a lover somewhere around 4 years back….when he asked me this Q for the first time….& let me tell you….i FROZE for a COUNTABLE amount of seconds….

i was flooded with a milli different things i COULD say….but none of them were really coming from what my ๐Ÿฑ pu$$y wanted….

instead i went into…

๐Ÿ’ญ“what does HE want to hear?!”
๐Ÿ’ญ“how do i say it in a SEXY way?!”
๐Ÿ’ญ“and wait…what the fuck do i actually even WANT right now?!”


๐Ÿ‘ฉ‍๐Ÿซ when this comes up for clients, i recommend a few things:

(bookmark these tools for home practice๐Ÿ”ฝ)

๐Ÿ’ฅif you’re IN the moment…


i know, it’s vulnerable. but that = INTIMACY & CONNECTION. which is what you really want @ the end of the day. NOT communicating what’s real for you in the moment, ๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ง๐ž๐ซ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐๐š๐ซ๐ค, & your ๐›๐จ๐๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐š ๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐œ๐ž. besides, the draw back can be felt ๐š๐ง๐ฒ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ! allow the mystery to come to the surface, & then PLAY the energy of THAT…..TENSION is SEXY!

โช BEFORE the moment…

PRACTICE: my favorite homeplay practice for this challenge is to have a SOLO SEX session. as you follow your pleasure & touch yourself, TALK to yourself OUT LOUDโ€ผ๏ธ challenge yourself to come up with ๐Ÿ”Ÿ sentences you COULD say to a lover. the KEY is saying it out loud - it’ll be SO much easier for you to do this with someone ELSE, if you can do it with yourself FIRST ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

๐Ÿšจ if you’re looking to un-FREEZE & open your voice in the bedroom to have better sex.....& feel hella satisfied…

join voice expert ๐ŸŽค@jessica.sirena & i tomorrow @ 10 MDT for Becoming Your Own Best Lover Workshop Series๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿป

we want to FEEL & HEAR your inner goddess!!! & we’ve got the tools to tease her out ๐Ÿ˜ผ

the sign up link is in my bio <3

p.s. you are PERFECT even in your freeze state. even when you have no words. nothing is broken, wrong, or needs to be fixed. i just simply know what is possible having come from this place, to where i am now. & i selfishly want the same for you ๐Ÿ˜ฝ


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