when he asks "how do you want it?"

i remember being on t0p of a lover somewhere around 4 years back….when he asked me this Q for the first time….& let me tell you….i FROZE for a COUNTABLE amount of seconds….

i was flooded with a milli different things i COULD say….but none of them were really coming from what my 🐱 pu$$y wanted….

instead i went into…

💭“what does HE want to hear?!”
💭“how do i say it in a SEXY way?!”
💭“and wait…what the fuck do i actually even WANT right now?!”

EVER HAPPEN TO YOU?!👇🏻

👩‍🏫 when this comes up for clients, i recommend a few things:

(bookmark these tools for home practice🔽)

💥if you’re IN the moment…

🗣 NAME IT:

i know, it’s vulnerable. but that = INTIMACY & CONNECTION. which is what you really want @ the end of the day. NOT communicating what’s real for you in the moment, 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐤, & your 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐚 𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞. besides, the draw back can be felt 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐰𝐚𝐲! allow the mystery to come to the surface, & then PLAY the energy of THAT…..TENSION is SEXY!

⏪ BEFORE the moment…

PRACTICE: my favorite homeplay practice for this challenge is to have a SOLO SEX session. as you follow your pleasure & touch yourself, TALK to yourself OUT LOUD‼️ challenge yourself to come up with 🔟 sentences you COULD say to a lover. the KEY is saying it out loud - it’ll be SO much easier for you to do this with someone ELSE, if you can do it with yourself FIRST 👏🏻

🚨 if you’re looking to un-FREEZE & open your voice in the bedroom to have better sex.....& feel hella satisfied…

join voice expert 🎤@jessica.sirena & i tomorrow @ 10 MDT for Becoming Your Own Best Lover Workshop Series👇🏻

we want to FEEL & HEAR your inner goddess!!! & we’ve got the tools to tease her out 😼

the sign up link is in my bio <3

p.s. you are PERFECT even in your freeze state. even when you have no words. nothing is broken, wrong, or needs to be fixed. i just simply know what is possible having come from this place, to where i am now. & i selfishly want the same for you 😽

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