re: perfectionism & the struggle to orgasm

re: perfectionism & the struggle to orgasm

do you feel like full body pleasure is hard to achieve between the chatter in your head & the difficulty of relaxing into the moment? 

i've found a strong thread between those of us that have the...

black & white mondset....the all-or-nothing way of thinking....& perfectionist tendencies.

(also a SHADOW side of the Sensual Erotic Blueprint)

when we're oh so focused on:

the goal + the outcome

the way it should go.

the way it should feel.

the way I should smell. 

thewas I should sound.

how long it should/shouldn't take to have an orgasm...

we become further & further away from the pleasure that's available by be-ing on the journey.

....the same pleasure wave that will most likely take us to the orgasm we're after-

but only when we R E L E A S E the pressure of all the 'shoulds' 

perfectionist, over-achievers & people pleasers-

LOVE control

control over our bodies, our expressions, how we're perceived & how much we put our hearts out there....

in fear of being:

too much,

too vulnerable,

too 'weak'

vulnerability becomes something we even hide from ourselves

if you feel yourself in this:

let pleasure be your playground for experimentation 

let it be the place where you CAN

slow down

breathe

open

allow

receive

let go

let it be the place you:

release the pressure, the force & the pushing, to make space for full body relaxation & surrender.

don't get me wrong,

this takes time, patience, practice & trust

but we're all capable.

Denver friends! 𝐄𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐁𝐥𝐮𝐞𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐱 𝐔𝐧𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 Workshop is tonight @cosmicteaholisticshop at 5 PM MDT! 💫💦🌈

come play to increase your pleasure & feel sexually fed x expressed

message me for the sign up link<3

(if you’re intrigued & have no idea what the blueprints are, dm me for the quiz link to find out what your stack is!)

lastly….if you’re ready to go deep with me….

we’re enrolling now for IN THE FLESH Mystery School, a facilitator training for body sovereignty, somatic sexology, quantum bodywork & the erotic blueprints!

p.s.🚨a VIRTUAL Erotic Blueprint workshop is happening on November 7th — it’s 3 deliciously juicy hours + $222

✔️we’ll be connecting 1:1
✔️learning about the blueprints
✔️playing with our pleasure ready body’s to discover our turn ons / turn offs
✔️& i’ll also be doing a demo (with my wolverine claws⛓)

message me for the sign up link! 😽