equal parts boujee & earthy

this weekend has been filled with community, sister dates, pleasure practices, inward journeys ….& whole lotta love!

i brag i got to kick off the weekend with Erotic Blueprint coach friends celebrating the release of Sex Love & @goop on @netflix (if you haven’t watched — GET YOUR BOOTY IN FRONT OF THE TV! couldn’t be a better representation of the work i do as a Somatic Sexologist)….

i brag taught an incredible Erotic Blueprint workshop at @cosmicteaholisticshop…thank you @ericaalisonwellness for being my sexy demo …& @elizabeth_fuckinmarie_psychic for hosting (pssst will be hosting an online workshop in the next few weeks )

i brag i’m going to a Sound Healing event tonight!
eee can’t wait to connect!

& tomorrow i have a somatic session with a client! followed by finalizing IN THE FLESH Mystery School details

g r a t i t u d e
p r e s e n...

working with your SEX….is like taking a rocket ship into your soul & soul’s curriculum

ain’t no hiding when you get in between the sheets

>> sex is THE WORK <<

because fuck…

if you’re scared to face #shame for speaking your truth to your friend when you’re fully clothed

…try it when your ass up & tied to the bed post

(talk about 𝐕𝐔𝐋𝐍𝐄𝐑𝐀𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐈𝐓𝐘)

one of the many reasons I LOVE working with the 𝑬𝒓𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒄 𝑩𝒍𝒖𝒆𝒑𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒔 is because it gives you an understanding of:

YOUR body
YOUR eroticism
AND your partner/s

…like nothing else

when you have language to put to your desires + turn ons & turn offs….hello ecstatic pleasure x deep, fully body orgasms

want to learn more about the 𝑬𝒓𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒄 𝑩𝒍𝒖𝒆𝒑𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒔?

join me TONIGHT @ @cosmicteaholisticshop at 5 PM MDT!

shoot me a message for the link to sign up!

Watch HERE

re: perfectionism & the struggle to orgasm

do you feel like full body pleasure is hard to achieve between the chatter in your head & the difficulty of relaxing into the moment? 

i've found a strong thread between those of us that have the...

black & white mondset....the all-or-nothing way of thinking....& perfectionist tendencies.

(also a SHADOW side of the Sensual Erotic Blueprint)

when we're oh so focused on:

the goal + the outcome

the way it should go.

the way it should feel.

the way I should smell. 

thewas I should sound.

how long it should/shouldn't take to have an orgasm...

we become further & further away from the pleasure that's available by be-ing on the journey.

....the same pleasure wave that will most likely take us to the orgasm we're after-

but only when we R E L E A S E the pressure of all the 'shoulds' 

perfectionist, over-achievers & people pleasers-

LOVE control

control over our bodies, our expressions, how we're...

do you know your Erotic Blueprint?

knowing your Erotic Blueprint is like having an easy-to-follow roadmap for your sexuality

it's a potent framework that supports you in

....understanding

.....exploring

....& unleashing 

your eroticism

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO KNOW THIS?

...gives you language & words to get your needs met (+ meet the needs of your lover(s)

...reveals  WHO you are as an erotic being, WHAT to ask for, & HOW to ask for it

...uncovers where you are right now + where you want to be

The 5 Eroic Blueprints

ENERGETIC

if you're an energetic, you probably short circuit if it goes from 0-60 too fast. but with just the right type of light, finger tip, anticipation-filled touch...you're wetter than ever;)

SENSUAL

if you're a sensual, you probably have difficulty getting out of your head no matter how much you try to focus. but when everything is JUST right, like the candles & music, you can really let the fuck go. 

KINKY

if...

𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐁𝐥𝐮𝐞𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐱 𝐔𝐧𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 Workshop is at @cosmicteaholisticshop THIS Friday 10/22 at 5 PM MDT!

we need more PLEASURE now more than ever ;)

you may be thinking
pleasure is the LAST thing on my to-do list right now
how am I supposed to feel pleasure when the world is still in crisis?
i have to do the dishes, laundry, tend to my biz & keep myself sane through all of this. rinse & repeat. no spare time.
i can’t get out of my head enough to sit back & self regulate
i’m covered in fear for the world + i feel ALL of the collective fear x contraction
i don’t even have a sex drive

valid thoughts

AND...

these reasons are WHY we need to amp up our pleasure EVEN MORE!
Sexual release is one of the most efficient & effective ways to reset the nervous system

 
clients have reported moving through this time with grace, compassion & ease - AND an ability to
make more money
call in ideal clients
have yummy sexy time with their lover x selves
...

‘you never initiate sex or come onto me’ …. said every boyfriend i ever had

this always made me feel so 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙢𝙚𝙛𝙪𝙡

i felt like less of a woman

it brought up stories that said:
i wasn’t a sexual person
there was something wrong with me
i didn’t know what i was doing
i wasn’t enough
& they were better off with someone else

this happened for TWO REASONS…

1 i didn’t feel 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 or in my sexual expression. i grew up with shame around sex, 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙜𝙧𝙖𝙢𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙜 (wrong, dirty), & a lack of sex ed (aka pleasure)

i picked up on societal cues that told me sex was for men’s pleasure…& my body was there to 𝘀𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗲

it left me 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐜𝐤...𝐮𝐧𝐟𝐞𝐝...& 𝐮𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝

2 i later learned…..i’m a primary Energetic on the Erotic Blueprints (dk yours?! dm me for the quiz link!).

this means i’m:
highly turned on by anticipation, tease, & space.
i need grounding, safety, connection & SLOW anticipatory touch to get me...

Client Testimonial:

Read testimonial HERE 

somatic + pleasure work forever changed my life & forever changes my clients lives.

to receive more, we have to feel deeper.

and…everything is experienced through the body first

ready to learn the ancient arts of somatic sexology & body sovereignty?

dm me for where to get started…

i have 3 sexyyyy options available for you: self study, 1:1, or facilitator training

attention DENVER FRIENDS!

before working with the Erotic Blueprints, i felt like my sexuality was a MYSTERY

i didn’t understand why some sex was SO good…& then other times… i just couldn’t turn on (no matter how much I tried)

i didn’t understand why some partners went from 0-100 in a matter of mins while I needed WAY more of a warm up

most of the time…it ended with me **feeling stuck, broken, unsafe, or too complicated to understand**

i RARELY felt fed

& i HATED being asked,
“what do you want?
& “how do you like it?”
because i. did. NOT. know!

& goddess, i hated using my words in the bedroom - i had no voice.

when i learned about the 5 Erotic Blueprints, everythingggg started to make sense

i learned about my superpowers as an Energetic Shapeshifter (one of many = no touch orgasms ;) & getting super turned on by tease x anticipation, not the 0-100 kinda action

i also found out that all of that self criticism was actually...

i stand for your bigness
i stand for what you are stepping into
i stand for everything that is possible…for you
i stand for the wet & wealthy version of your Highest Goddess

i won’t entertain your small self stories
& all the reasons you can’t

i won’t believe your distortions

i won’t hear your excuses

i won’t hold those for you

what i will hold…

is your vision
of MORE

more pleasure
more purpose
more money
more freedom
more play

that’s why you should hire me
as your coach & mentor

i will always remind you of your power
…& that you can have it all

ready to OWN your BIGNESS?
dm me for IN THE FLESH Mystery School details

the very thing you are scared of.... is the very thing that will set you free.

every single woman i meet & coach (myself included)

is deeply intimidated by her DESIRES... & POWER (at first)

the reasons you keep holding yourself back from pulling the trigger & signing up....

is not because you're scared of the shadow of what could arise from the darkness

it's actually because you're so in your KNOWING of your Absolute Power & Infinite Abundance

that it becomes A LOT to RECEIVE

it's a LOT on your nervous system

which is why...WE DON'T.... & literally cannot....DO IT ALONE

we NEED co regulation on this journey

we need somatic practices to breakthrough

i hope this empowers you to trust in YOUR desires...

even when the 'fuckkkkkkkkkk this is scary' comes in 

this could be the start .... or the next step....

of being more connected to your Truth

if you're ready to take the deep dive with me...

'cause you know the benefit of being up close & personal with...