Busting Common Sex Myths

#1 Talking about sex does not take away from the magic

But what we make it MEAN about us when they DO // DO NOT pick up on our subtle messages DOES

i. e.
he doesn’t understand my body & my soulmate should def just know so I guess this means he’s not ‘the one’
OR
he makes me squirt as soon as touches my p*ssie he’s everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner we’re totally meant to be

Gah! No!

Hate to tell you (but actually I love it )…

Sex gets better with practice!

That immediate firework show at the start of a relationship typically implies a trauma bond that’s activating a familiar (often harmful) pattern from childhood

Anyway,

Consent / boundary / desire conversations can be such a TURN ON

I make sure I talk about sex on every first date

Not just because I’m a somatic sexologist…

but because if we’re not sexually/sensually/energetically compatible - what’s the dang point??

Sex...

Reminder: Your Pleasure is Everything  to This World...because what feeds you...feels the whole.

I fell back into the matrix

Last week we closed the doors to LOVE SEX MEN. If I’m being honest, it was a smaller launch than what I intended & wished for.

I spent days trying to figure out what went ‘wrong’, what could have been better & how I could improve launch protocol.

Know what I came up with?

PLEASURE.
(Or lack there of)

Everything I, & my biz, stands for.

[How silly of me to have forgotten ]

I realized where my energy leaks were…

And all of them were because of my lack of enjoyment in the pleasure that was sitting right there in front of me

My mind taking me out of them because:
xx Making this much money should be harder
xx Now you have a partner & a bigger home to care for (the irony of this during LSM launch)
xx Time is limited time is limited time is limited ‍

I noticed controlling, micromanaging behavior from me to Paul (again, the irony...

We drove 30 min past the exit we were supposed to get off at & ended up at the perfect trail with little to no humans & streams to dunk our bare bums in

Anyone else spend hours on @alltrails & end up somewhere totally different?

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We need more submissive womxn because we need more womxn in their full power.

“Surrender is the position of allowing in, of getting filled up, of getting nourished.

Surrender is the position through which we allow all the good & the beautiful & the delightful to enter our spirit.
 
Live in Surrender if you want to feel replete, if you want to feel the world is beautiful & benevolent.

Live in Surrender if you want the world to enrich & and help you along your path.  

Open yourself up & let other’s mastery enter your system & move you.”

-OM R.

The desire to let go of control is at the base of your feminine heart.

Today’s the last day to apply for LOVE SEX MEN! Hope to see you inside with the other womxn ready for the journey!

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Saying you’re not ready to commit to the self work that’s required for a healthy, loving relationship (& an epic sex life) implies you ARE ready to keep getting hurt, let down & stuck in your pattern.

Every time we say, “I’m not ready for ____”, we are saying YES to staying exactly where we are.

Sometimes saying one thing, really says another

What are you waiting for right now because you don’t feel ‘ready’? And, what’s the effect?

Applications for ***LOVE SEX MEN: 8 week journey to heal the wounds of the masculine, evoke your submissive & open to deep connection x intimacy*** are due by tomorrow

You know what to do!

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If you keep running up against a wall in your relationships because:

you hold grudges
have emotional outbursts that have nothing to do with your current partner
express controlling behavior
think no man will ever be enough
don’t feel safe in your vulnerability
never really let them in (your heart)
keep attracting ’weak’ men
have loads of unresolved resentment
keep convincing yourself you’re not looking for a relationship but end up settling in one anyway
you’re so successful everywhere else but the relationships fail
secretly don’t feel worthy of real love or pleasure
blame blame blame
manipulate manipulate manipulate

Girl, I’ve got you!

But…

There’s only **TWO DAYS** left to apply for LOVE SEX MEN!

We cannot let men lead, until we have forgiven the wounds of the past, & TRUST enough, to sink into a place of surrender & submission

But before we can trust,
we need to feel SAFE…

And before we can feel safe with anyone else,

we need to...

if you’re out here giving your friends the best relationship advice but not taking it for yourself, you probably have unresolved issues/trauma/programming/karma/ancestral wounding

TIME TO HEAL IT BOO!

while i know it can feel heavy/daunting/intimidating to look at our ‘shit’

the truth of the matter is…

if it’s left unresolved, you never left that place of wounding anyway

the body remembers everything

but it does not understand T I M E

so if the body never got resolution to your dad leaving when you were little, your ex cheating on you, the sexual assault in college — then it does not understand it to be in the past

as far as the cellular memory is concerned, you are being hurt & living out the wound over & over & over again

this is *why & where* we get stuck, project, & carry out patterns like its our job

TO UNDO this, come join us in LOVE SEX MEN.

we will be healing the wounds of the masculine to evoke your submissive & open to deep...

Wanting to be appreciated for more than your body...

When you feel stuck, two parts of you are probably at war with one another. If you’ve ever felt like you wanted to be seen for more than your body, this one’s for you. I’ll introduce two concepts that you can take out into the world, to allow yourself to feel safe in expressing your sexuality and receiving attention. LOVE SEX MEN applications are due by SATURDAY! Links in bio

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1. Not advocating for yourself.

holding your voice back when somethings feels off or uncomfortable in your body .

being coy with your needs/wants/desires. This handicaps your partner.

2. sorcery

Saying the things you know will hurt them the most. 

3. Projecting old wounds onto your current partner 

grouping all men together (i.e. all men do this, this always happens) suspecting or blaming them for something your ex bf did. 

4.Holding onto grudges

this keeps the repair work form being done, and can often end up in an emotional outburst. It takes you out of the 'team' mentality and into battle . 

5. Emasculating your partner/being overly critical

thinking you know what is best for them & constantly calling the shots/telling them what to do. Feels like cuddling up next to a porcupine.

6. Talking smack about them to your friends. 

Asking for support outside your relationship is different than complaining & talking poorly about your partner. 

7....

his. Is. A. Conversation. About. Feeling. Safe. In. Our. Softness.

And VULNERABILITY

There was a moment along my submissive journey, where I recognized that I had never known the feeling of standing next to a healthy dominant man.

(Feel into your body...do you??)

I had known what it felt like to stand next to a man...

but never a man that I deeply respected, **trusted over my own intuition**, & in turn could, surrender to.

Attracting a healthy dominant masculine man - one that does not let you walk over them, make you play mommy , project their wounds, or keep you small - requires OPENNESS & POLARITY.

If you want this, understand it asks you to be open & surrendered enough (**softness & vulnerability**) to [actually] be penetrated by the divine masculine.

Believe it or not, there are PLENTY of those men around...

whether or not you let them in is a different question.

The ask of the sacred feminine is depth of the heart ♥

We get angry at men who do not fill the...